Monday, February 18, 2013

Teddy: Defining Happiness


Authors Note: This is actually my second attempt at writing a response to the short story "'Teddy" by J.D. Salinger.  My first attempt didn't go over to well because I jumped right into it too quickly, and when reading a higher level story like this I needed more time to process my thoughts and really develop my thesis. There were so many approaches to look at this story from, and it covered many topics that I wanted to talk about, that is why it took me longer to put my thoughts together. Once I had a clearer idea and I narrowed my focus, I wrote this response and scraped my first one; although that wasn't my original intention. In this piece I talk about our selfish nature and how we look to the wrong things to find satisfaction. I tried to use a lot of text evidence to back my ideas.

Self-righteous, self-seeking, selfish -- we stand on our pedestals, looking down upon our narrow world.  We build ourselves up for praise, and please others to please ourselves. We are naturally selfish people. Our hearts desire for more, our eyes cast shadows of greed. Happiness, contentment, and peace are fleeting from our grasp.  As human beings, we naturally seek ourselves first because we desire satisfaction, but it is our selfishness that actually blocks us from this.

Desire, greed, and lust are things many people struggle with. For without these what would temptation be but just a word, what would drive lots of our motives? We meet an interesting character in the short story "Teddy", the ten year old boy who proposes the idea that we do not need these emotions at all, but maybe we need other emotions to control our motives, and to ultimately produce pleasure in our lives.

"'I wish I knew why people think it's so important to be emotional,' Teddy said. ‘My mother and father don't think a person's human unless he thinks a lot of things are very sad or very annoying or very-very unjust, sort of. My father gets very emotional even when he reads the newspaper. He thinks I'm inhuman.'" Teddy only mentions emotions that make us unhappy in this quote; he never says anything about emotions that do make us happy.  This is because Teddy is trying to say that we seek pleasure from many worldly desires, and in order to feel satisfied we look to what other people have to say about life. We constantly try to adorn ourselves with new gadgets and garments to fit in and conform in order to maybe find some contentment. But Teddy gives us yet another example of our false motives; he shows us that we do not need outward beauty to be happy. 

"He was wearing extremely dirty, white ankle-sneakers, no socks, seersucker shorts that were both too long for him and at least a size too large in the seat, an overly laundered t-shirt that had a hole the size of a dime in the right shoulder, and an incongruously handsome, black alligator belt." Teddy clearly didn’t pay attention to outward appearance nor did he judge others on their looks; he searched deeper. He didn't waste his time fooling with false images; he cared about living for higher purposes. Teddy focused on who he was as a person, rather than what others saw in him. I'm not saying we should not look presentable by all means, but I'm saying that happiness dwells deep within someone, not merely on the surface. When we discover who we are inwardly, then our outward actions and appearances will reflect that.

To unlock this inner peace, we must start at the source of satisfaction somewhere beyond our conventional approaches to life. The hardest question in life is asking who you are, but once we have this answered we will not focus on pleasing ourselves because we will not be searching for more approval. The generic answers to this question are things dealing with age, gender, race, and professions, but these are conventional and the logical approaches to this question. “‘You asked me how I get out of the finite dimensions when I feel like it. I certainly don't use logic when I do it. Logic's the first thing you have to get rid of.' "

Teddy's father's had never asked himself this question, nor did look beyond the surface of everything; he lived more of a superficial life. He prided himself with his loud voice, and he selfishly used his gift whenever he could to seek praise from others. "Mr. McArdle played leading roles on no fewer than three daytime radio serials when he was in New York, and he had what might be called a third-class leading man's speaking voice: narcissistically deep and resonant, functionally prepared at a moment's notice to outmale anyone in the same room with it, if necessary even a small boy." When we look for outward approval to drive our sense of emotional contentment, we can get addicted to it, and live each day only looking for compliments to fill ourselves up. It can become like a drug that invades and takes over our lives.

When we get caught up in the busyness of the world and the false signs telling us that we need to look a certain way to be happy, we can lose sight of the person we want to be. Logically, we desire to listen to what others have to tell us about life, but it is when we find our true self that we can find joy and pleasure. We will only feel completely rested when we give up our worldly motives and live beyond the surface. We will never be content if we are not happy about whom we are inside.